8 Things To Look Forward To, When Your Best Friend Moves Home. 

My brother has been living in Melbourne, (which is several states away from me, for reference) for the past few years. He moved as soon as he graduated high school, at the tender age of 17. Now, at the pinnacle age of 21, he’s finally coming home. & I couldn’t be happier.

So I made a list of just a few reasons, I can’t wait to have him back by my side, and be up to mischief with him again. After all, a sibling is a life long friend.

 1. DATES. They go on dates with you. Whether it’s a “we both slept in way too late, let’s find a place that does all day breakfasts” kinda date. Or a “I’m taking you out to lunch and showing you how a man should treaty a lady” kinda date. Which my brother did a lot for me growing up. So now I’ve got great standards, and a great guy that meets them. In my books, these kinda dates are the greatest.


 2. SPENDING TIME TOGETHER. Whether it be picking on each other, stealing the tv remote, or going on crazy adventures with each other; at least you’re together. Don’t wait until your sibling is on the other side of the country to finally realize how much you love them and miss them. Focus on the good times first and always, even when they’re annoying as hell. 😇

 3. LATE NIGHTS. Out of our parents, other two siblings, and two sibling in laws, we both know that the sibling most likely going to be the only one still awake at this hour, willing to answer your call, is out of us two. Whether it be to plead a case to come pick you up, when you’ve had a drink and can’t drive home, or, you’re having too much fun out dancing so you need your sibling to make sure the side door is unlocked for whatever time you may get home, without waking up the parentals. They’ve always got you covered.

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 4. LAZY MORNINGS. Ah yes, the lazy mornings which tend to arrive after the finale of the late night. These are some of my favorite memories. Whether it be, both waking up starving, and attempting to convince them to cook you breakfast, to no avail. Instead you both end up in the kitchen cooking some random combination of food to fill all your wants and cravings, while listening to your new Spotify play list and trying to avoid the “whipping each other with tea towels” game, because you’d loose, for sure.


 5. HONEY, SMILE. Not only will they go on any kinda adventures with you, they will also second as your personal photographer, AND be willing to pose in photos with you, if you ware them down enough… plus, who doesn’t love cheesy sibling photos?! I know I do! 🙋🏼


 6. THEY’VE GOT YOUR BACK. At all times, on all days, no matter how far away they may be, they’ve got your back. They will answer the late night “help me” phone calls, or the 5pm “I had a bad day at work” phone calls, or my favorite, “hey, I’m trying to convince mum and dad to….” kinda phone calls. They’re always there; even if they’re half a country away, and quite frankly, I wouldn’t trade my brother & best friend for the world.

  1. Being apart, sucks. and you both know it, which is why we need as many images with “I hate being apart from you” faces. You both understand the need for ‘quality’ photos. But soon, there will no need for them, because he’s coming home.

8. NO MORE WAITING. Never again do I have to wait 3-6 months for a desperately needed brother hug, from my best friend.

It’s for all these reasons, and so so many more that I can’t wait to have my brother home in a few days. I’m counting down the days.

Until next time,

K.

X
P.s. Please don’t be offended other siblings, I’ll put it on my “to-do” list to write a blog post about how great you guys are too 😇

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10 Tips For Being A Good Friend

Good friends are hard to find these days. But when you do search high and low for that quality person, you’ll want to hang onto that friendship. However, it goes both ways. A friendship can hardly flourish if it is just one sided.

So, I sat down with my lovely life-long friend Elly-Grace, at Dancing in Violent Fields and discussed what it means to be a good friend.

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  1. TAKE THE TIME: Taking the time to listen to each other’s Spotify playlists, knowing full well their blood and sweat went into creating their own little slice of heaven.

 

  1. VISIT THEM: When they’re sick, and provide any sort of comfort food. They will remember this next time you’re sick.

 

  1. BE NATURAL: Be raw with them. Make sure you give your friends the privilege of knowing the real you at all times, even if it drags a whole range of emotions with it.

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  1. BE HONEST: Call them on their shit. It’s 100% okay that if you feel they are making a crazy life decision to pull them up on it. However, when they’re being over emotional, let them cry and rant to you as well. Sometimes you might not have the wisdom to give to them but they will find it comforting just knowing that you are listening.

 

  1. ANSWER CALLS: Answer their Skype calls or phone calls when their overseas and need your help ASAP and be willing to spend hours on the phone with them talking about every situation with them, and wishing you were together again. We get it, everyone has busy schedules so if you can’t answer their calls then just send them a message saying you’re thinking of them. It’s simple.

 

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  1. SUPPORT THEM: Celebrate with them. They’re victory is your victory. Seeing them happy makes you happy. So make sure you show it.

 

  1. SHARE: What’s mine is yours. Be so comfortable around them that there is no boundaries and what you can and can’t borrow and share…just not boyfriends.

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  1. LOVE THE FAM: Treat their family like you’d treat your own. Ask about them, because almost instinctively you already care about them.

 

  1. DON’T BE OVERPROTECTIVE: And don’t be overly clingy. Be happy in who you are, and your confidence that the friendship makes you both shine – not one of you hiding behind the other.

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  1. ESCAPE WITH THEM: They will escape with you when you feel the need to get away. Even if it’s just to pick you up for an ice-cream or a long road trip. They will be there.

 

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Let us know your thoughts!

 

Until next time,

 

K x

 

ABOUT DANCING IN VIOLENT FIELDS Dancing In Violent Fields is a lifestyle and travel blog for souls seeking inspiration. Elly-Grace is usually daydreaming about a Greek Summer so she writes as a means of escape. She often struggles between the need for travel money and the battle of wanting to spend money on coffee dates

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What’s next for this record holder?

Recently returning from his worldwide trip, Lachlan Smart (18) has set the world record for being the youngest person to fly around the world solo.

DSC_0242-2.jpgSmart states that is his main motivation for achieving this goal was to be able to send a message to young people about setting and accomplishing their own goals.

“I’ve seen my peers throughout school and the Australian Air Force Cadets have these amazing dreams and ambitions but sometimes we miss motivation and self-belief, so I wanted to hopefully motivate and inspire young people to go for their dreams, no matter how crazy they might seem” says Smart.

Smart has been planning this trip for the past two and a half years, and has had many people ask him for advice along the way about achieving ones dreams.

“If I could give one piece of advice to anyone young or old about setting and achieving goals, it would be, don’t be afraid of the crazy dreams you might have. We all have ambitions that we want to strive for, and more often then not, we will say “Oh I’ll do it when I’m older, I’ll do it one day, or I can’t do it, it’s too hard.” When in reality we can do it, there are so many things we can achieve, we just have to reach out and grab the opportunities around us.

Other then flying, Smart is really passionate about being outdoors and enjoying the world around us. Even more so then that, he’s determined about making a difference.

“I spend a bit of time really trying to motivate others, whether that by conducting talks or going down to different youth development organizations and having a chat with them. I am fulfilled by the opportunity to motivate others,” says Smart, when asked about his passions in life.

DSC_0224.jpgAlthough, the trip has come to a finish, Smart now holds the world record in his hand, he still refuses to let this passion and reasoning behind this trip to fade into a memory.

“Now having finished the trip, it’s time for me to move on; but I don’t think it’s good enough that the message about people setting and achieving goals ends on the 27th August 2016, when I landed at the Sunshine Coast Airport. There is more to come from this man and his future plans.

Smart is now investing himself into his company called, Young Achievers International, he plans to take the message about setting and achieving goals to the next step, in a practical sense. Smart also intends to attend university next year and conduct a degree in business, as well as pursuing his flying career.

With Lachlan Smarts future plans well underway, who knows what else this eighteen-year-old still has yet to achieve. Watch this space.

 

Does Lachlans story inspire you to follow your own dreams?

Until next time, K x

 

A loss or a gain?

In the theme of keeping your life in balance, in order and in harmony. 
Something to be remembered is to surround yourself with people who love you as much as you love them, and people who are willing to try as much as you do for them. 

A lesson most teenagers learn, as they get to their quickly approaching “20’s” is that not everyone stays. All your best friends in high school cliques, and work friends kind of slowly fade into the past once you’re graduated and you’ve moved jobs.

And that’s not always a bad thing. 

  
Sometimes it’s hard to distance yourself from people when you’re lonely, or you enjoy your companionship and you choose to ignore that something just doesn’t feel right in your gut. Or the way they talk to you doesn’t really feel nice. 

You don’t have to make excuses for them to act that way, and you don’t have to make excuses for you to stay. 
And sometimes, that’s not always the case, sometimes people just grow apart for no bad reason, other then with growing up means new morals and responsibilities and sometimes yours won’t exactly line up with your ex besties anymore, and that’s okay too.

The point of this all is to tell you that it is okay to let go, of old friendships, old flames, new friends who don’t make an effort, friends who make you feel bad about yourself, and people who are simply not adding anything to your life; instead rather just wasting your time. 

You don’t have to stay in that; you always have a right to choose who you form friendships with and surround your self with.
  
Remember; instead of crossing oceans for people who won’t cross a puddle for you. Try crossing the world for people who would cross planets for you. They’re the ones worth fighting for. 

You know who they are, so make sure that you do fight for them; because those are the diamonds among coals you don’t want to loose.
As for me, I’m not one for a big crowd; but the few I surround myself with always make me feel on top of the world; and I hope I do the same for them. 

  
Until next time, 
K x

An awkward ensemble 

My bed side table is covered by water bottles and pain killers.

My bed is my best friend.

My back shaded with beige and white patches;  disposable awkward tan lines that more often then not attach themselves to my shirts and underwear.

The hunch of my back slightly elevated by a heat pack that is suppose to ease the pain; well that combined with the tablets, patches, and taping.


Sitting. Uncomfortable.

Standing. Unbearable.

Walking. Unfortunately slow.

I’m not doing my best; but I’m trying.


A good place to start would be to tell you that I don’t have a cool or even somewhat interesting story to tell you.

Other then, I screw up.

I didn’t slow down when my body begged me too, and I paid no attention to the pain in my body until it demanded to be felt.

I think I’ve heard (or starred) in this story before.

Between moving furniture, lifting kids, not resting; ignoring my body combined with leaving it somewhat to long I managed to sprain the ligaments, joints, and muscles in my lower back.
I think the perfect emoji to describe this feeling would be the upside down smiley face. 🙃

Because it looks like I’m happy but I’m pretty pissed off with myself.

Because I’ve learnt this lesson before.

I’ve stared in this movie; and been handed all the consequences before that decided to out  stay their welcome.

Yet here we are again, same moral, different story.

To be fair; I was mad with myself.

Because I don’t have a lot of spare time as it is,

So all the spare time I did have, I used to cancel plans and lay in bed.

Uni, is a struggle because driving, walking and hours of sitting is not very bearable to say the least but I’m always going to try.

And just when I thought I was getting the hang of it all; and getting better at it, my body will promptly remind me that I’m not invincible, and I too, have to rest.


My body decided to remind me the other night, after a doctors visit in the morning, several hours of uni in the afternoon, and by the evening (when a planned date night was scheduled) my body decided it was done for the day.

My boyfriend & I arrived at a restaurant, and as we sat down I felt as if our seats were miles apart because I couldn’t learn forward to hear him, or admire him. No, instead I was glued to the back of an uncomfortable chair on an awkward angle, and my back & hips ached.

We sat there for approximately 60 seconds before Caleb looked me straight in the eyes and said. “Come on, let’s go.” (Here is a good point to tell you that sometimes he knows me better then I know myself).

I went to rebut, but before I got the chance he renforced his point and said “I’m going to sit her for 30 minutes and watch you be in pain, please.”

Somewhat, relived, I agreed, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to handle any longer of well, even functioning that day.

 


Although relived, I still cried the whole way home for ‘runining’ the date night, and because I was in so much pain.

“I’m so mad at myself!” I exclaimed.

“Woah, no no no, I’m not going to let you be mad at yourself, please don’t do that.”

“But I can’t believe I did this to myself, hurt myself so badly and I don’t even know how. And I’ve been looking forward to this date all day and I over did it. I did too much today and I ruined it.”

“You didn’t ruin anything, you did what you needed to do today and now you need to listen to your body, and you need to rest. Okay? Besides, at home movie dates are my favorite.”

“Mine too.” (I stopped crying here).


Sometimes, it’s pretty easy to be mad at yourself. It’s pretty easy to over-do and out-do yourself, and sown times it’s easy to forget to look after yourself.

So if this message sounds all too familiar, and you’re looking for a sign to slow down, then this is it.

As cliche as it is, learn the lesson before you hurt yourself. I can guarantee you that it is not fun.

 

After all, our bodies are our homes, we’ve got to do our best not to burn them down. Alright?

 

Until next time,

K.

(Hopefully I’ll be out and about by then, but still taking it slow.)

Message me your thoughts, and stories on when you’ve had to learn this lesson for yourself.